How To Make Your New Year Wishes Work Through The Logic Of Time
I have received many New Year wishes from friends and relatives. I am thankful to them. My challenge, however, was that most of them kept harping and repeating the same wishes that had been recycled for countless times. Consequently, I had two issues with these wishes: first, I found creativity lacking in many of them. And second, I doubted whether they were meant to effect any change in my life. But to be courteous, I simply replied to the wishes, ‘Thank you, and enjoy the same wishes.’
I just read a post from my brother Agana Agana-Nsiire, which sought to push people to add action to wishes that could be very vague and empty. I have decided to add to Agana’s call, by offering practical ways of making our wishes (regardless of how flippantly they could be) work through the three dimensions of time: past (traditionalism), present (existentialism), and future (utopianism).
The first is traditionalism. In terms of the past, I will call it traditionalism. Instead of just sending repeated wishes across to friends and relatives, just ask yourself the simple question: when I made similar wishes last year, what did I do to ensure that they became real? Here, sincerity requires us to think deeply about how we meant what we actually wished our friends and relatives.
The second is existentialism. Here, I am referring to the present. Again, instead of just facetiously sending some routine wishes, ask yourself the question: what must I do NOW to make sure the wishes for my friends and relatives become real? You can also think of the question: how best can I help make my wishes work for my friends and relatives?
The last is utopianism (future). Here, the focus is on answering the question: what can I do to ensure that the actualization of the wishes has long term – future – reality?
In the end, we should ask ourselves the questions: must I contribute to the payment of fees or buying of books? Must I pray for my friend or relative? Must I show real conjugal love? Must I provide healthcare assistance? Must I include my friend or relative in a social and economic network? Must I eschew envy and jealousy? Must I be deeply interested in my friend or relative’s progress? Must I accommodate my friend? Must I avoid corruption to make sure my friend or relative does not suffer? Must I avoid ethnocentrism, nepotism, and partisan politics to promote our common humanity? Must I be industrious, rather than fatalistic? In sum, what must I do to make the happiness in the New Year real?
I am convinced that if we think through these dimensions of our wishes, then we should be able to evaluate the sincerity of our wishes. It should also make us aware of how we must be thoughtful and considerate about the wishes we send to our friends and relatives. Wishes should not be mechanistic and empty rituals. We must mean them!
Source: Modern Ghana